This is some of the feelings and effects of my worst SA attacks, not all of them but some. Yet there are people on SA forums who still advise you to “Feel the fear and do it anyway!”,insist that you are just making excuses and procrastinating and go and just talk to other people as if social anxiety is just a minor inconvenience. Do many of these people on self help forums really have chronic SA(social anxiety) or just minor to moderate shyness? If they have no comprehension of even how impossible or excruciatingly awkward and painful the most basic conversation can be they must have a much more minor anxiety than mine.
They insinuate that it is just cowardice that you have not had a relationship as if everyone gets nervous but everyone else is braver than you for forcing themselves to talk. Now imagine being a young man and trying to chat up a girl with all of the above going on in your head. These are the same sort of reactions I would expect from getting in a shark cage as great whites circled me or being told to walk through the bush with wild lions on the prowl. if you indeed do force yourself to try and talk and an anxiety attack occurs you come across as such a weirdo/lunatic freak that you become the laughing stock and then you desperately try to avoid contact with the same people again from the deep shame.This scars you and makes you worse, not better. No, you idiots its not simply a matter of feeling the fear and doing it anyway, you have to somehow cure all of the above first.