Self help? Help yourself!

I hate feeling sad, miserable and depressed most days now. However as many posts on the net advise you to drop negative people from your life do they then thus think negative people deserve to suffer and that they bring it on themselves? Do they then totally ignore that the negative person has problems too which need solving and they DON’T CHOOSE TO BE SAD OR NEGATIVE?  As someone feeling negative does that mean I have no place on an anxiety support forum as these forums are only there for go getting positive people who just happen to have anxiety as well?  Do they also demand all of these rules on depression forums? Do they tell depressed people to just cheer up and stop being negative?  People are just so hypocritical and judgmental. Nasty and cruel people may be positive and do things. It does not make them a better or morally superior person.


If you are totally alone with depression and anxiety you are obviously very unhappy. if you are like this you repel other people as we are programmed to like positive people which just keeps you this way and stops you getting better. if some  then think you deserve to suffer because you are negative that makes them an ignorant, selfish c**t. You are in effect forced to be a hermit as nobody want to be near you which means you stay this way or even get worse. A perfect example of survival of the fittest. Human behavior often being cruel and selfish. This guilt trip these positive people heap upon may even encourage the desperate,sad and lonely to commit suicide. Some help.


So these so called positive people won’t support you if you are feeling sad or depressed as it depresses them and they can’t comprehend the fact that some people can’t CHOOSE to be positive like them. That make them to me sound like unloyal selfish bullying assholes who are not worth bothering with. Maybe you are not good enough to be my friend. 


2 thoughts on “Self help? Help yourself!

  1. The Elephant in the Room September 2, 2014 / 12:16 pm

    It’s hard having anxiety depression and no one has the right to make you feel like you do. Telling you to cheer up or stop is not helpful, you have to work through this in your own way. Writing helps me, but you need to find what makes you happy 🙂 Good luck.

  2. klodo September 2, 2014 / 3:27 pm

    Thanks for your reply. The trouble is I think that almost everyone sees things from their unique point of view especially on self help forums.When you get down so low that you can’t see any way out its a bit hard to think of 3 positives for the day and then get told its all your own fault for being so negative!

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