Glass half empty?

I keep reading online advice telling people with anxiety to remove all negative people from their lives? However if you have very bad social anxiety, not only have you probably not got much of a choice as you have little or no friends anyway but you may be the negative one that everyone else has removed from their life and that is why you are alone in the first place.The negative people are also often your family who caused you to be this way and are not so easy to remove.

Of course online forums regularly mock people for being too negative and not positive like them as if this means social anxiety is all self inflicted, their own fault and thus they deserve to suffer alone. Of course this is total bollocks as many people who never leave the house with chronic anxiety are sad, desperate and very lonely but also often lovely kind people whereas many positive people become the equivalent of sergeant majors, quite nasty and bullying and constantly wanting praise for being so positive.They become ruthless and selfish in order to recover and achieve success. Look at how many big business leaders come across as total ruthless bastards.

This leads me on to the other regular shit online advice cliche of Just be yourself!  if you are alone and miserable then just being yourself is probably the very reason so Change Yourself!

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