If you put social anxiety into Youtube you get several videos come up with self proclaimed experts immediately giving you their sure fire tips for overcoming it. Either that or young attractive people usually girls with their own experiences of anxiety. (Oh I wonder why I have got so many views! Its ‘cos the internet is full of horny young men desperate for a shag!)The thing is the advice from some of these people with their huge confidence and egos is utter total crap and once again appears to be aimed at moderate to mild shyness and not social anxiety at all. The one guy’s tip is to go to a bar over and over again and you’ll probably become friends with the barman! What? Arte you a F**KING imbecile? With overwhelming SA you blush stutter look uncomfortable, find it hard to impossible to make small talk even if someone talks to you non-stop. In reality you look like the weird creepy loner who sits on his own in the corner and never speaks and no one ever speaks to. People will laugh at you.
He then says if you are bad at public speaking you should do as much of it as possible to get good at it. Again this advice is completely bollocks. Going from gibbering wreck to forcing yourself to speak in public is a nightmare. Once again he never even contemplates blushing, sweating stuttering and looking very, very anxious and uncomfortable. People will laugh at you and mock you. You will probably feel worse and end up wanting to kill yourself. You fall to pieces and get more avoidant, not better. The advice is totally hopeless. As the social anxiety guy says on his blog 95% of advice for getting rid of SA is useless! All they tell you is keep going out and doing stuff and assuming you will automatically burst into fluent chat and make friends and get better just by being in the presence of other humans. Doesn’t happen!