I’m still taken aback on anxiety forums how much of the advice is nothing more than just forcing yourself to talk to someone and then assuming that you come out of your shell and have a great conversation especially in regards if you fancy someone. In reality even if I had a girl smiled at me when I was at work and even if I liked her then the most basic conversation was almost impossible without severe awkwardness and if I did indeed try I would make a complete idiot of myself. I was so shy that if I thought a girl liked me I would actually avoid her even more so I would not blush and stutter. its pretty much impossible to describe to people that have not gone through it. The feelings of shame, embarrassment and failure were overpowering and left me feeling a total failure.