I have felt a bit loopy over the last couple of weeks and have sort of gotten the attitude of screw it! ( not a bad thing when the alternative is to be a miserable bastard!) Anyway I have used the social anxiety forum more often than normal but with some humour and surprisingly have gotten more responses than normal.Of course I have used another username as they all hate me when I use the main one but any response is better than the usual nothing.(Paranoid ? Me?) I knew it anyway but this of course shows the importance of humour in all relationships, online or real life. In fact a key component of flirting is joking and witty banter, teasing etc. People always say they love a GSOH.
But why? Why is humour so important in meeting new people and making friends? We obviously enjoy humour hence comedy clubs and funny TV and it must release those good chemicals in the brain that make us happy but is there any kind of evolutionary answer? The only thing I have heard and this was years ago and pretty primitive but someone who is funny is happy and therefore has nothing wrong with them. On the other hand someone who is miserable has something wrong, problems, maybe mental illness so they are in effect faulty so we evolved to avoid them for our own good and so we dont pass on faulty genes. It may be a crap theory but this makes perfect sense even if it is someone cruel and survival of the fittest.
Of course the only problem is learning how to be funny and more humorous in the first place when you already have major anxiety and life problems. Ever decreasing circles and all that.