Reading some of the self help forums the subject of virginity comes up over and over again. Not surprising as sex is one of the most important factors for all life. The question being that as our mental health is not up to scratch compared to normal people does that mean you have not had sex yet.  Some also talk about being involuntarily celibate due to their mental health and talk about how long has it been as if they are trying to outdo each other. First of all the only reason to F**K in evolutionary terms is to create new life. That’s why nature made it pleasurable like eating food or we would not bother and the human race would have died out long ago. Of course lots of people do it just for pleasure alone and if it’s all consensual that great. But if I have never stuck my penis in a woman’s virgina or anywhere else for that matter WHATS THE F**K HAS IT GOT TO DO WITH ANYONE?  What is the idea that people should have something to be ashamed about as if its a status symbol? And why are men seen as heroes or legends if they go around having lots of sex? Its ridiculous in this day and age. It could only stem from our long gone primitive instincts as when the human race was in danger, replacing people so our species did not die out was essential hence all the fertility rituals and the like. Mind you, lots of things were essential in cave man days but not today.

Even on various mental health forums there is intense shame created as if not getting laid by the age of even 18 is the biggest indicator of being a loser. I should think lots of people with mental health problems and also people who were confused about their sexuality, maybe gay or transgender have never had sex by a certain age. If some then go on to never have sex, perhaps they could be asexual or have intimacy issues then why the hell have they got be embarrassed about not getting f**ked?  I once read a post where as a guy did not believe it possible that a hetero man might still be a virgin past 30 no matter how shy he was.  I replied saying in fact it had been incredibly easy actually.  Did he think girls go round jumping on men’s dicks FFS.  We are not like baboons on the plains of Africa where you shag anything you fancy on sight. Mind you I bet even baboons have some kind of social etiquette for mating. The only females I came across were in the canteen at work. Did he think some offered to give me a blow job as I waited for my coffee?  If you can not chat someone up and are so anxious you can not even make small talk if they occasionally speak to you first then it’s almost certain that you will remain a virgin.  Even basic flirting becomes a total impossibility if your social anxiety is extreme.  As you get older you often don’t even try or think about it anymore.  Of course there are real life 40 year old virgins.(apart from me that is!)There are also 50, 60,70,80,90 and 100+ year old virgins as it gets harder and far less likely for many people the older you get not easier.


Author: klodo

I am male,English and have had social anxiety since I started school at 5 years of age. I like photography, walking, wildlife, history and moaning.........CONSTANTLY! Oh you must stop being so negative! Shut up! NOW WITH ADDED DEPRESSION!

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