Next Question, I knew this one was coming!
4. How do you think other people see you?
Almost overwhelmingly negatively. I think I was seen as quiet, miserable, boring, strange and weird. I also think shy people are often misjudged as rude or bad mannered.This started at school and carried on through most of my working years. Even using online anxiety forums has been a mostly negative experience where I feel disliked and ignored even when I do try so it’s far more than just body language. I think these feelings of being so intensely disliked and not normal from a very early age naturally made me even more avoidant and so made it much harder to fit in or take part in any activity even when I wanted to. Although it’s obviously up to the avoidant person to do things to improve as they are the faulty ones it’s often forgotten or ignored how incredibly judgmental most normal people are of anyone who acts differently or strange . I think people with mental health problems are ostracised by many if not the majority in society forcing them to be alone and which makes any recovery much harder. This is yet another point which is blindingly obvious yet completely ignored by therapists who forever try and make you feel guilty to induce you to change as if shyness is entirely of your own making and then the next minute are saying to stop feeling so guilty!