A short moan today but this still gets me furious. I cant be forced to be positive just by someone telling me, just by reading it or thinking it. You develop positivity by positive things happening. For many people they dont. Do they think you just press a button? I have had years of paranoia, depression and anxiety so reading a post on a forum telling you to have a more positive attitude is f**king useless. This from the forum where 99% of the members ignore you while at the same time telling new members that they will find great support. Bollocks will they! Great support if you meet certain criteria which means fitting in and thinking and liking exactly the same as all the regulars!
I read that depression is one of the main effects of long term anxiety and yet almost all advice for SA totally ignores this and assumes you are just a bit nervous and can force yourself to go out and try new things regularly and this will help. If you have depression almost everything you try is a total failure. Even finding the motivation to live or do anything becomes hard.Without curing this and the negativity that goes with it first then almost any attempt to cure SA is pointless as almost all normal people will avoid you as they wont like a miserable or awkward person. Then they try to label people as not trying hard enough or deliberately being negative like its a choice. For instance even without any anxiety I feel as miserable as F**k right now and any conversation is hard. Yet they tell you to just meet up with people and somehow assume you will just make some friends. So much of this online advice is total shit, full of lies, full of hypocrisy.
I signed up to an anxiety site a few months ago and get emails from them like this:
WILLINGNESS: On a scale of 1 to 5 STARS, how WILLING are you to overcome your challenges and to have the life you want?
NOTE: this question isn’t about if you think you can do it or not, but rather how willing you are to take responsibility to do the best you can to resolve your challenges and have the confidence and success in life you want.
Its just so much bollocks. Its obviously demanding positivity and already implying you are a coward and thus deserving misery if you are not up to it. Do they expect you to whoop and say “Yeah!” like a religiously brainwashed audience? Mind you they want you to pay them so they dont really give a damn.
Look at this utter motivational shit I saw on Pinterest today!
5. In every situation, YOU choose your attitude.
Be determined to be positive. Understand that the greater part of your misery or unhappiness is determined not by your circumstances, but by your attitude.
What, so people with cancer, homeless, starving , being abused,living in war zones just choose to be miserable. Of course your mood is TOTALLY determined by your circumstances you stupid F**cking arsewipes!