To deal with social anxiety you…
- Take small steps.
- Observe other people and realize that they are not thinking about you.
- Recruit a friend to be with you as you practice going out.
- Keep moving small steps past your comfort zone and eventually you will expand the zone to include more things!
You see, this is the only cure for social anxiety I have ever seen. Keep doing stuff and assume or even demand you get better and then if you dont blame you for not trying hard enough. it totally ignores depression even though this is a key addition to long term anxiety.I am not just socially awkward. I am very miserable.
Observe other people and realize that they are not thinking about you
Many are though, they did at work, they did at school. Just because its not everyone doesn’t stop it hurting. in a group if just 1 person bullies you every day it ruins your life. it doesn’t have to be everyone. Likewise just one person laughing at you for walking funny or being ugly or one person punching you in the face ruins your life.Also having a paranoid anxious mind makes every sentence that was nasty like being called a zombie or mental stick in your mind for 20 years or more. Being told not to think of it is like being told to ignore an itch when a giant centipede is biting your leg.
Recruit a friend to be with you as you practice going out.
Well you have to have a friend in the first place. if you have none you are back at square one. everything is done alone, everything is harder.paranoid thoughts infect my mind every time I leave the house.Just assume though that even people with chronic shyness have friends and have all been on dates or to parties.
Keep moving small steps past your comfort zone and eventually you will expand the zone to include more things!
Again just assumptions that you will definitely get better when many things make you worse. Like posts on forums telling you that you will certainly recover and look back on this in years to come with pride and assuming you are 21 with vast quantities of time left instead of past 40 and its too late.