I’ve just read yet another self help site for social anxiety saying to keep negative people out of your life and to be more positive. The quote:”Be strong, be focused and be confident!!!!! And start each day with with positive, strong thoughts. Then that positivity will become your reality!”
Sounds great! How the flying F**k do I do that then? In a separate post he then goes on to talk about depression and how badly it effects you. Of course being depressed is negative so presumably everyone else has kept them out of their life because they are too negative thus actually increasing their anxiety and depression and negativity. Round and around we go.
Being optimistic and positive is a great asset to have especially if you have known little success or normality in your past life. Of course past success and especially your upbringing determine how much positivity you have and are unfortunately often out of your control like mentally insane parents. A negative mindset and chronic shyness has resulted in failure and misery which only keeps your mindset negative as nothing good ever happens..Just switching it on like a tap is much harder and why so many anxious people drink instead.
Society expects us to be positive, social and humorous especially if we are meeting friends or new people so as a negative shy person we instinctively avoid such situations as we fear rejection. AND YET they tell us to stop avoiding social interaction and situations to cure us. They insist we go out to meet new people, then they insist we act positive and friendly the first time we meet these new people. Once again my brain does not work that way.
Here is something quite positive and also beautiful in its own way. Its a chimpanzee playing a piano.I found it on a Peter Gabriel YouTube video. I worship him as a god. is that being positive or just delusional?