- Avoidance:If you avoid a wide variety of social situations, your life becomes more and more restrictive, and depression can follow. Most likely, as you begin to address your social fears and become more comfortable in social situations, your depression will lift. Make sure you include some fun things in your life that don’t elicit anxiety. Drawing, reading, listening to music you like.
Very true again but its very hard to start from nowhere and when almost in the gutter and with virtually no support whatsoever. I am also a social misfit. Where to go and what to do. Will mixing with depressed people make me feel even more depressed or will I depress them as I obviously do with people online. Being SA means any group situation and I am less likely to feel comfortable and talk which often doesn’t get better with time unless conquered at the start. Mind you the main thing this avoidance has really cost me is work as I virtually never went to any social situation anyway. I still think that most of the advice for socialising is for moderate shyness and anxiety and not people who are chronically anxious or depressed as mixing when feeling terrible just reaffirms feelings of negativity and failure. This happened again and again and is totally ignored by self help advice. Something so many people seem to have absolutely no comprehension of. I am also not warm and friendly and all social etiquette demands we are. My massively increased anxiety means I get extremely irritable even when shopping and want to push people out of the way all the time. Everything irritates me at the moment and I have no way of relaxing as nothing I have tried works for very long.