- Self-Blame: You may blame yourself for having this problem. It’s important to remember that no one chooses to have social anxiety disorder any more than one chooses to have diabetes, for example. Both are very real problems, deserving of careful attention and treatment. Beating up on yourself serves no useful purpose; it only keeps you stuck. Instead, try self-acceptance and self-compassion.
This is interesting but surely everyone else blames us and that’s why we feel so much guilt and shame in the first place. We are blamed for not chasing girls from teenage years(for males) and not going out enough. For being cowardly, unemployed or lazy. We are blamed for being rude or not speaking enough, for not saying the right things or as I have seen on this site for not embracing other peoples ideas or for for having negativity even when feeling suicidal.I find so much hypocrisy when dealing with mental health as they blame you for not doing things right and then come up with things like self compassion and acceptance the next. Its similar to that favourite old phrase of just be yourself when in reality you often have to change your behaviour to become acceptable to others and fit in with them, not the other way round. I dont choose to be irritable and depressed either but people still treat you badly if you act this way as if they think its deliberate.