- Hopelessness: “I’ll never get any better.” This thought frequently pops up in people’s minds. Know that it’s simply not true. Read success stories to generate hope. And remember, some day you will be one of those success stories.
Is it also OK to read about the people who become homeless or committed suicide first as it didn’t get better to sort of balance things out? Just demanding you will be a success although trying to generate hope and optimism is ultimately no different than believing in God or religion.How dare people demand I feel positive when they know me to be feeling suicidal and how dare they even think they have the right to get angry when I do not change my mood simply due to a stranger on the internet. If anything this shows how judgemental many people are and people claiming to offer help are often the most ignorant of all. They demand optimism and then become angry at negativity as if its a choice. Does this mean that all depressed people are just choosing to be miserable and need a damn good talking to and they will just snap out of it?
In fact everything got much worse for me and I am well past 40 so its hardly surprising I dont think it will suddenly get any better. Everything is much harder with age as people are mind numbingly judgemental but pretend they are not as it makes them feel better about themselves. Most things I tried failed so it increased my anxiety and yet we are constantly told that doing stuff is the way out of anxiety. No, doing stuff that works is the key to recovery from anxiety. Doing stuff that fails makes the anxiety worse.Now that I have seen so many bad stories about the NHS and treatment of mental health even that small window of hope is diminishing. The deeper I go the darker it gets.