“Most people prefer to be around others who are happy or in a good mood.”
And dont forget they dont like being around socially awkward weird,creepy boring or much older people than them either. Thats why I am not optimistic.
I read another article on anxiety from an online self help book in which shy people are afraid of coming across as boring. They asked someone to talk to a stranger as if they were being introduced at a party, one using safety behaviours and then again without. Of course in the wonderful world of self help books they came across much better than feared and this once again proves that its all in the mind.But is it?
So what do people talk about at parties?
Job? Don’t have one and have been very long term unemployed( OVER 10 YEARS!!!!)
Family, dont have one and ave never even had a relationship!
Hobbies, apart from my one friend I occasionally see and minor dabbling in photography I never speak to another human for weeks on end and never go anywhere and see anyone. I do like the sport of cricket but alas that only confirms my boringness.
Is it appropriate to talk about my mental health problems with strangers or will it put them off? If they ask about why I am single shall I mention not being able to get an erection until I was 27 and my fear of intimacy and also being crippling shy around attractive girls when younger. Shall I talk about planning for suicide and my fear of being homeless? Shall I talk about my alcohol dependency and self harm and paranoia and talking to myself all day and regular insomnia? No? None of this is appropriate conversation for talking with strangers at parties?
Then why the F**k would I go anywhere to socialise with strangers and why the F**k do no self help books take age, depression and any of this into account when demanding you go and make pleasant conversation as if it will make you better. I am boring and depressing and full of misery and hopelessness and have absolutely no motivation! How do I cure that? Go on tell me? I am dying to know.