Do women like shy men?

Despite the odd pleasant comment these women mostly seem to dislike shy men. Who knew? Not surprising really as most women seem to want to be approached and chatted up first. As one of them puts it swept off her feet. One even says there is no reason to be shy! Yeah its so easy to be confident!  A few say they are shy themselves so need the man to make the first move which only goes along with the idea that its much more acceptable for women to be shy and that men are simply expected to “Man up!” and approach her.

Of course being very shy or  having severe social anxiety is much harder than being just a bit nervous. It means its almost impossible to make the first move without intense anxiety and awkwardness with added blushing and stammering which is incredibly embarrassing so even basic conversation is close to impossible. Hardly surprising this puts women off. Its hard enough to even make any friends. This again shows how absolutely pathetic the advice of just do it and force yourself to speak is as if its just a matter of being brave and then witty banter naturally comes out.  It often makes things worse.

She even says the classic “Don’t be shy!” line at the end after just showing a video where most of the woman slag shy men off! If you are very shy all the normal social events which most young people go through as a normal part of growing up which lead to making friends and getting that first relationship for life never even happen as they are an absolutely nightmare because of  intense humiliation and often ridicule. This  sometimes then leads to a lifetime of avoidance as its hard to even get a step back on the ladder of normality and before you know it, its too late. This is true for both sexes of course but its probably more humiliating for males as the emphasis is still on you to make the first move and shy men are more often than not seen as weak or losers.


Author: klodo

I am male,English and have had social anxiety since I started school at 5 years of age. I like photography, walking, wildlife, history and moaning.........CONSTANTLY! Oh you must stop being so negative! Shut up! NOW WITH ADDED DEPRESSION!

2 thoughts on “Do women like shy men?”

  1. Personally, I always flocked to shy guys. They were usually more intelligent than the peacocks at the parties, they had a lot more interesting things going on in their head, and they have no problem with me hogging the spot light being the vain person I can be. And now I’m going to marry one of the shyest men I’ve ever met. He is also the kindest, smartest, and most considerate man. He observes, he bleeds compassion for others, and he doesn’t make a fool out of himself. Maybe that’s the trick, ladies. Shy guys are actually better.

  2. Thats nice to hear. I remember some girls at work who really disliked me for being shy so it was easy to get into a paranoid mindset and imagine they all did.

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